Bye February : Ending February in a Full-Blown Love Affair…With Yourself!

Written By Christi

February usually arrives wrapped in roses and candlelight, spotlighting couples who somehow walk in perfect sync, as if they rehearsed atop the Leaning Tower of Pisa. But this year, we flipped the script.

This month, the great love story stars you. Main character. Plot twist. Love interest. Cape-wearing hero.

Let’s get ready!

GRWM ( Get Ready With Me )

Section 1: The Art of Self-Boundaries

“No” is a full sentence.

Boundaries are the emotional equivalent of moisturizing and putting on your favorite scent. Essential. Underestimated. Transformative.

Try on a few boundary statements like that perfectly tailored pink corduroy suit:

• “I’m choosing rest instead.”
• “That doesn’t work for me.”
• “I love you, but no.”
• “I’m not available for that.”

Here’s a small but powerful practice. Write down three things you’re no longer available for. Then write three things you are available for. Notice the shift. Notice the steadiness that follows clarity.

Section 2: Somatic Therapy, Listening to Your Body’s Gossip

Your body is your most honest friend. It knows when something is off long before your thoughts catch up. The tight shoulders. The shallow breath. The internal commentary that gets loud after a hard moment.

Somatic practices help you tune back in.

Try these simple resets:

  1. 60-Second Body Scan
    Notice tension. Notice ease. Notice if your shoulders are trying to become earrings.

  2. Shake It Out
    Stand up. Shake your arms, legs, shoulders. Let it be awkward. Reset your nervous system.

  3. Hand-on-Heart Pause
    Place your hand on your chest. Take a slow breath. Say quietly, “I’m here.”

Small moments of regulation can soften the entire day. When the nervous system settles, clarity returns.

Section 3: Date Yourself, Because You’re Excellent Company

If you can enjoy your own company, you unlock something powerful.

Dating yourself does not require a grand gesture. It requires intention.

Consider:

• A solo brunch with a book
• A slow museum visit
• A grocery store adventure with no rush
• A solo movie night
• A nature walk without your phone
• Trying a new café and writing like you’re working on your first novel

You are not just filling time. You are curating your inner world. You deserve to show up for yourself, dressed up or dressed down, simply because you exist.

Section 4: Tangible, Realistic Goals

Let’s trade “New Year, New Me” pressure for something steadier: “New Month, Refreshed Me.”

Choose goals you can actually sustain:

• One extra glass of water each day
• A five-minute stretch before bed
• Twenty phone-free minutes
• One joy-based activity each week
• One nightly statement that begins with, “I’m proud of myself for…”

These are small meals that nourish long-term confidence. Consistency builds trust with yourself.

Section 5: The Peace of Being With Yourself

There is a quiet magic in enjoying your own presence. In the stillness, your voice becomes clearer. Not the harsh critic. The softer one. The steady one.

This is where self-love grows. Not in spectacle, but in presence.

Conclusion: Fall in Love With Yourself

Self-love is a relationship. It needs attention, humor, patience, and the occasional pep talk in the mirror.

This February, you practiced being your own Valentine.

Be your own safe space.
Be your own favorite person.
Be your own joy.

Because the most enduring love story you will ever live is the one you build with yourself.

Until next time.

Christi

Christi

I am a Clinical Social Work intern committed to advocacy and serving individuals who have been overlooked or unheard. Under the supervision of Dr. Jones, LCSW, I provide therapy that integrates advocacy and clinical care to address root causes and promote meaningful, lasting change.

I have a strong interest in Maternal Mental Health and am dedicated to supporting women during pregnancy and the postpartum period with compassion, cultural responsiveness, and presence. As a mother, I understand the emotional complexities of this transition and aim to support women navigating depression, anxiety, and the many adjustments that accompany motherhood with mindfulness, dignity, and care.

I earned a Bachelor of Arts in Management and Human Relations with a minor in Healthcare Administration and a Master of Science in Healthcare Administration from Trevecca Nazarene University. I am currently completing my Master of Social Work at Tennessee State University and pursuing clinical licensure.

I am passionate about creating a transparent, supportive space where clients feel heard, understood, and empowered toward sustainable growth.

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